Where Are The Parents Of Suicidal/Homicidal Teens?
I think about all the instruction I give my children in the mornings over breakfast. All the kisses on their sleepy heads and the ‘I love you’s’ before they have even opened their eyes fully in the morning. I think about calling out to them as they leave for school- I tell them to ‘listen to your teachers! No pulling cards today (a form of discipline)! Stay together!” I think about the cheerful time when they get home and all come to my desk with kisses and hello’s, fresh wind in their hair & full of the day’s news and events. Sometimes, they come home full of anger and annoyance. Sometimes, they are sad because of a bad grade or a friend problem. ALL of this serves as opportunities for life lessons, love and discipline.
Then, I think of the rhythm of the afternoon and evening: chores, homework, sports, or just play and t.v. This is the time where I help them with Algebra, spelling, writing, etc. THIS is where I tell them I expect straight A’s from every one of them as we review their test results online. This is where I tell them that they will not only pull their weight in society, but they will LEAD this society someday. I teach them about politics, humanity, and good common sense concerning boys and girls, dating, marriage and sex. Yes! We talk about that all the time. When my son takes out the garbage, I talk to him about being a man someday. I talk, sing, tell them about God & Jesus, and just am PRESENT for them all day long.
Sometimes they fight like cats and dogs- again, more opportunities about life and how they will need each other- especially because we are in the end days. I can SEE that they aren’t on the internet viewing porn, which shows they are watching on t.v. and that they aren’t abusing the phone or hanging out with troublesome kids. In fact, all the neighbor kids come HERE to hang out with my kids- which is exactly what I want.
Here is my question: WHO THE HECK WOULD DO ALL THIS FOR ME IF I WEREN’T HOME????
It isn’t a criticism! It is an honest question! If I had my old, very lucrative career still, I wouldn’t be home until about 6:30 every night. Sure, we have NO MONEY! Sure, we never go on vacation. Sure, I’m still nursing the gorgeous shoes I could afford when I was working 13 years ago! Sure, the house is getting tattered and is in dire need of a new roof. Sure, my husband WALKS to work because we can’t afford another car. Sure, we run out of money long before new cash comes in for food. Think that dusty cabinet food tastes great?? But I just can’t imagine them growing up with NO ONE to teach them all that I do before 6:30 pm everyday! And IF I came home so late, the very last thing I would want to do is lecture the kids or discipline them for things I never got to see. I could never even THINK about all I should teach them because it wouldn’t be fitting into the circumstances that naturally inspire such ‘talks’. I would want a shower, dinner, a stiff drink and time to wind down. I would want GOOD times with the kids, not negative time. I wouldn’t be able to do homework- my brain would be shot. Anyway, their homework would be done by then. It would be a mess. I don’t know how anyone can raise kids and not be at home. I just don’t.