Why There Is No Such Thing As ‘Curing’ Homosexuality
This is actually Part II of the previous article, “Should Christians Be In The Business of Curing Gays?”
We’ve been talking about the notion of ‘curing’ homosexual behavior within the context of the closing of Exodus International. Some say that gays can’t be cured. Some say they can be. Some say that God will cure them. However, I firmly reject entire the notion of ‘cure‘. Those who practice homosexuality are not sick. Nor are they born that way. People decide to engage in immoral sex. Thus, a ‘cure’ makes no sense. Also, a church whose entire function should be so narrowly focused can’t possibly be a church. And it very well could lead to mental torture on people. Not Christ’s goal.
If homosexuals are ‘sick’, then so are all people and our sickness has a name: ‘SIN‘.
However, I am sure that people are 100% capable of laying down their entire lives for Christ. Not just the teeny, tiny part called ‘sex’. Jesus wants our whole life– yes! as in, the entire enchilada! So how can anyone complain about giving up just one small part for his sake? People focus so hard on sex- as if it is necessary for life or for happiness. Why? Sex brings momentary pleasure and then the pleasure dissipates into thin air. What remains, if one is engaged in moral sex, is friendship, acceptance, love and laughter. Those are what we truly crave. And those are delivered by Jesus in such a superior and overwhelming way that mere sex becomes a laughable- no, a pitiable substitution.
To live with a thriving and whole relationship with Jesus is to leave the worldly things behind- easily. Jesus delivers such rapturous joy and completion that no sacrifice is too much to give! The great irony of God is that one must first lay down their lives- then they feel the truth of my statement. And until you do give up your whole life, my statement sounds ludicrous. God didn’t make faith easy or obvious! He wants us to trust him and to trust Jesus first. Faith first, reward second. But Jesus did tell the truth when he said,
“For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will find it.” Matt 16:25
He meant it. Having lived the reality of this in my own life, I can easily say that if I had to give up sex in order to be right with God, I would do it in a heartbeat. Nothing compares to the life I have with Jesus. Nothing.
When you personally know and love Jesus, you have all that you need. Period.
Thus, a person who craves this relationship with God, through his gracious Son, Jesus Christ, can and will lay down their sex lives, at the very minimum, in order to have it. Some lay down their literal lives for it.
Makes the pagan wonder, I’m sure. But entirely worth it.
The reality is this: the more you lay down your selfish desires and live to fulfill Christ’s mission for us, the less and less you crave things of the flesh. Our focus needs to be on all that lovely and good and wholesome and worthy in this life. And guess what? GOD is the source for all of that! So, with our minds and actions on God, we lack for nothing. We crave nothing. We leave our sinful, limited, animalistic earthly lives behind and instead receive the divine existence that is our true destiny.
So, I say: no one needs to be ‘cured’ of any sin. But if you WANT eternal and glorious life with God, then you will honor and obey him. You will do what Jesus did: wash the feet of the poor, feed the poor, clothe the naked, visit the prisoner. You will DECIDE to obey God- not because he is a tyrant, but because all of God’s laws were laid down to bring us life, not death. And Jesus was sent with this loving message from God, “I know you can’t ever be without sin- even in your heart. And I forgive you for it. Just apologize and try harder next time. You are loved beyond measure and my life, my death and my resurrection were performed to prove this love.”
So, no cures needed. Only a decision: LIFE or DEATH? What will each of you choose?